Tag: #peace

Selective Social Circles: Because People Can Be a Real Drag (And Phone Zombies)

Let’s face it, people can be very exhausting. It’s like they’re constantly sucking the life out of others. But it’s not just the negative vibes; it’s also the constant phone scrolling and social media addiction. I’ve reached a point where I’ve decided to be highly selective about who I spend my time with.

I’m not saying I’m antisocial, but I’m definitely pro-social. I love hanging out with others who lift up people, inspire others, and enjoy laughing. But those energy vampires and phone zombies? No thanks. There no interest in being drained by negativity, drama, or someone’s constant need for attention.

I’ve learned that it’s okay to say no as well as let others exit your life. It’s okay to prioritize personal well-being. After all, no one is a human battery charger. We all need to recharge too. So, to be part of my circle, here’s what I request:

  1. Be positive: No one wants to be around a Debbie Downer. Let’s keep the vibes positive, please. Life can already be a drag at times.
  2. Be respectful: Treat others with kindness and consideration. No drama, no judging others, no gossip, just good vibes.
  3. Be interesting: Have something to say, something to offer. Don’t just sit there and expect me to entertain you.
  4. Put the phone down: I get it, social media is addictive. But when we’re together, let’s actually be together. If we aren’t capturing photos for memories, let’s leave the phones be.
  5. Don’t be a energy vampire: If you’re constantly complaining, whining, or seeking validation, please take your negativity elsewhere. Complaining and doing nothing about the issue is so annoying.

If these simple requirements can be met, then you might just make the cut. But if not, well, I’m sorry, but you’re just going to have to settle for being an afterthought. Because my mental health is more important than anyone’s feelings (and phone).

Finding My Rhythm

For a long time, I was a people-pleaser. My world revolved around making everyone else comfortable, even at the expense of my own peace. I said yes to everything, from extra assignments at work to social events that drained my energy. But somewhere along the way, I realized that in trying to be everything to everyone, I had lost myself.


It was a gradual shift, a quiet revolution. I started noticing how exhausted I felt, how my own needs were being overlooked in the pursuit of keeping others happy. And that’s when I decided to reclaim my peace.


Learning to say “no” wasn’t easy. It felt selfish at first, like I was letting people down. But the truth is, I was letting myself down by constantly overextending myself. By setting boundaries, not only was I just protecting my peace, but also honoring my own needs and values.


It was like building a fortress around my heart, a safe haven where I could recharge and refocus. This doesn’t mean I shut people out; it means I chose who and what got to occupy that precious space. It’s about creating a life that nourishes my soul, where I have the freedom to be my authentic self without feeling drained.

I chose myself, and I found that sweet spot where self-care and connection beautifully intertwine. I love it here.

My Plantastic Jungle: Where Chill Vibes Grow


Working from home day in and day out can be a total drag sometimes. Like, deadlines are piling up faster than the dirty laundry, and the world feels like it’s running on fast-forward. But guess what? I’ve got the ultimate stress-busting secret weapon: my very own plantastic jungle!


Okay, okay, maybe it’s not technically a jungle (yet!), but it’s definitely overflowing with awesome plants that make my home feel like a total oasis. Some might call it an obsession, but I call it happiness central! These leafy besties seriously bring the chill vibes.


Every morning, before the day really starts, I do a little happy dance with my green crew. Watering their thirsty leaves, misting the air for my humidity-loving ferns – it’s like a mini spa day that sets the tone for a peaceful day.  And let me tell you, seeing a new leaf unfurl is like watching a tiny miracle unfold – it’s just so darn inspiring!


But the coolest part of it all, is taking care of these plant pals like I take care of myself.  It’s a daily reminder that even with all the craziness in life, we can still create something amazing. Plus, these little green ninjas are basically nature’s air purifiers – they breathe in yucky carbon dioxide and breathe out life-giving oxygen. Totally the ultimate wellness squad for me and my asthmatic princess!


Beyond the science stuff, though, they’re just plain gorgeous. My pothos hangs like a lush curtain of green, while my African violets add bursts of color like tiny confetti explosions. Every plant has its own personality (and name!), making my jungle a living, evolving work of art.


Stepping into this haven is pure magic. The gentle hum of the humidifier, the earthy scent of fresh soil, the soft light filtering through the leaves – it’s like entering a chilled-out dreamscape that melts away stress faster than you can say “namaste.”


So, if you’re feeling overwhelmed and need a little piece of peace in your life, consider joining the totally awesome plant parent club! It takes a little patience and effort, sure, but the rewards are way cooler than just pretty decorations. It’s a space to breathe, to grow, and to reconnect with the simple joys of life. Because sometimes, all you need is a little plantastic therapy to find your happy place!

Peace blooms even in the tiniest cracks

Finding My Calm: Choosing Peace

People mean well. “Therapy?” they ask. “Maybe some medication to sleep?” I appreciate the concern, but this time feels different. This time, I crave a different kind of healing.


Instead of reaching for a sleeping aide, I’m focusing on regaining inner peace. It’s not a walk in the park. Some nights, the silence screams memories, and anger threatens to erupt. But slowly, I’m incorporating practices that bring a sense of calm.


Meditation offers a 20-minute sanctuary each morning. I focus on my breath, not erasing the pain, but acknowledging it and letting it go. Time spent outdoors is my grounding force. The fresh air, sunshine, and rhythm of my steps against the vastness of the sky put things in perspective. Journaling has become a release. On paper, I pour my heart out – the good, the bad, the ugly. It allows me to process emotions and start making sense of it all. Laughter truly is the best medicine. Spending time with my children and friends, reminiscing and creating new memories, reminds me of the love and support that surrounds me.


It’s a journey, not a destination. There will be good days and bad days. But by choosing peace over a prescription, I’m taking control of my healing. I’m allowing myself to feel the emotions, but I’m also actively choosing practices that nurture my well-being.


So, if you’re going through a tough time and considering medication, I urge you to explore all your options. There’s a power in finding peace within yourself, a strength that comes from embracing the journey, not numbing the pain.

Very Best Friend

I created a whole new level in my friendships lol. There is friend, best friend and now very best friend. Let’s be clear, I don’t possess a lot of friends. And most of my friends are guys because, I have just never really been able to vibe with females. They are catty, always in secret competition with you and then just not trustworthy. I have three female friends. But when I really break down our relationship, I have one. The other two are actually relatives. My male friends…I have four. One is much older than me and he’s like my mentor. He’s helped me through a lot and I him. Three of them are close in age or went to school with me. And one of them I met when I relocated and we just have always kept in touch. All of them are a thorn in my side because they treat me like kid sister.

Well now I have a very best friend. This title is exclusive. This very best friend knows me inside and out. We share some of the most intimate moments together. We share dreams, goals, fears and wishes for the future. He’s my other half. This level of friendship is like no other friendship I’ve had before. One where I am free to be me (I am always me, sorry) but I don’t feel like I’ve offended anyone or have someone feel a way about something I’ve said or done. He’s the one who isn’t afraid to give it to me straight, tell me what’s on his mind and put me in my place when needed.

Very best friend…I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with him…you know until the end.