Tag: #living
Setting Boundaries
Walls keep everybody out. Boundaries teach people where the door is.
-Mark Groves
Setting boundaries does not make you a mean person. It’s quite the opposite actually. Boundaries need to be established as a way to communicate what is and isn’t ok. Boundaries not only protect ones physical space, but also their body, feelings and energy. We all have limits and boundaries so communicate them with those close to you.
We set boundaries everyday with personal space, sexuality, emotions, thoughts, things and possessions, time and energy, culture, religion and ethics.
Boundaries protect our relationships from becoming unhealthy and unsafe. In that way, they actually bring us closer
together rather than push us farther apart. Having healthy boundaries allows you to make yourself a priority whether that’s in self-care, career, or in relationships.
Take a moment and discover where you need to set boundaries. Anything that is affecting your mental or emotional health needs a proper boundary. Be it a friend using you as a therapist but never has a moment to listen to you, a family member using you like a bank when they need money, someone who invades your space and shows up without calling, or someone who gets upset at you about not agreeing with their point of view.
I’ve learned to establish boundaries in all facets of life. Even my IG feed has boundaries. I unfollow anyone who isn’t in a healthy space with what they are sharing. Be it over emphasizing their point of view of politics, degrading memes, angry vent sessions or racist memes. Any of it isn’t allowed in my feed because my mental health and state comes above all else.
I have a personal boundary with family members. Not because I don’t care but because at some point I felt as though they didn’t mean me well. I have to be the best version of me. And I can’t allow others to dictate how my energy will be.
I suggest taking a moment and evaluating your life. Any situation or person can have a boundary. Create a boundary for things you need a buffer for, don’t feel bad about it and move on. No one controls your peace but you. Boundaries can always be adjusted, created or removed. Maintain your peace above all else.
Live in love and light and not chaos and darkness… ✌🏾❤️💫
Just Breathe
Breathe Queen you’re going to be okay.
Breathe and remember that you’ve been in this place before.
Breathe and know you’ve been this uncomfortable, anxious and scared yet you survived.
Breathe and understand you can survive this too.
These feelings that you are having cannot break you. They are painful and sometimes debilitating, but you can sit with them and eventually they will pass. Have faith in your resilience.
It may feel unbearable at this moment but keep BREATHING.
This too shall pass…BREATHE.
Product of Pain
“When there’s no more room in Hell…
…the dead will walk the Earth. “
I am the manifestation of two fucked up individuals. In turn, I am a fucked up woman. My fucked up Father is dead and my mother isn’t in the best of conditions right now. I am the product of their pain.
I’ve been living one disappointment after another all my life. I laugh to keep from crying. And I smile to hide the pain. I’m that person who has so much bullshit in everyday life that I try to be the sun in everyone else’s. I want no one to feel the emptiness and loneliness that I feel. But often times I’m shitted on. Subliminally I’m criticized and not just by my close friends but also my family. I don’t expect anyone to know how I feel because they never walked a mile in my shoes.
From the frequent inappropriate touching by my older cousin at the age of 7, to the abandonment and regret of having created me from my late Father, to the lack of emotional support from my Mother; to the gang rape in the Army, the threats to end my life if I told a soul, and the handful of meaningless relationships that resulted in heartbreak, distrust, regret and pain to include my 15 year marriage. I see how fucked up I am. I don’t possess the ability to be happy. I am the protype for unhappiness, pain and hurt. I always have stayed to myself without a lot of friends because people tend to use me for my heart. And then dispose of me when I’m no longer needed.
So when you’re living everyday as a human burden, which is better…To be alive hurting and adding to it daily or to die and not have to deal with it again? When you’re dead inside anyways why does it matter?
The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time.
Mark Twain
Awakened
Actions speak louder than words
Just a while ago, persuasive words with no action would give her goosebumps, sweet nothings and unthoughtful gifts would satisfy her cravings,
the key to her heart was being held hostage by a thief.
But through a process of self-discovery she has grown to listen with her eyes not her ears, and to only trust actions and not words,
to observe behaviors and allow time to be the investigator to see what it will reveal.
~R. Denise
The Pursuit of Happiness/Love
🎶 Imma do just what I want
Looking ahead no turning backIf I fall if I die
Know I lived it to the fullest
If I fall if I die
Know I lived and missed some bulletsI’m on the pursuit of happiness and I know
Everything that shine ain’t always gonna be gold (hey)
-Kid Cudi
I’ll be fine once I get it, I’ll be good 🎶
“Pursuit of Happiness (Nightmare)”
Feelings…
I think I will always feel second in everybody’s world,
I will always and forever be that lonely little girl.
Wanting love, attention and affection,
But constantly receiving and experiencing rejection.
Living a life full of upsets while dreaming big and feeling small,
Knowing good and damn well I won’t ever have it all.
Why dream when you can feel your destiny?
Being alone with your thoughts, wishes, and feeling empty.
-Unapologetically Broken
In My Unapologetic Life... 